Have you ever asked yourself why we dread getting older so much
Recently, I asked a room full of 400 people who wanted to live to 100. You’d be surprised how many hands didn’t go up.
Apparently nobody wants to get old.
But we’re all getting old right now. This very second you’re 15 seconds older than you were when you read the first sentence. And there’s nothing you can do to stop that.
At 45, I often asked myself what causes a mid-life crisis? And the answer I always end up with is that it’s simply a lack of self esteem, self-love or a lack of excitement about what you’re currently doing or have planned for the future. That’s right. Meh.
Ladies, have you or women you know abandoned your sense of self or sex appeal? More importantly, how many of us men have? Any Al Bundy(s) out there? Physically mailing it in each day, not paying attention to your body as much as you did in your twenties? Or wearing clothes you told yourself you’d never wear? Do we get old or do we tell ourselves we’re getting old Maybe you’ve stopped setting goals and said ‘I’ve learned everything I need to learn so I’m good enough’.
Jack Nicholson seems to be an expert of living life. The actor once said “the minute you’re not learning, I believe you’re dead.” Years later he followed it up with “my motto is more good times.”
Now we all know that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, but one thing Jack has missed out on is a lasting marriage, fancying himself as a ‘Playboy’. To each his own, however a major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses.
Marriage was intended to last a lifetime. Not all do, but yours can. A body was made to last 100 years. Not all do, but yours can.
The common denominator in both being lasting and fruitful?
Your health and marriage weren’t made with a cruise control button. If you stop pressing the gas and they come to a halt. If you want a healthy marriage and a healthy body that last a lifetime, you MUST make the right decisions and keep feeding the engine that makes them go with the best stuff!
Fawn Weaver, the author of “The Happy Wives Club” writes ““The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is in giving just a little ‘extra’ every day, as often as possible, for as long as we both shall live.”
Giving a little extra my friends. I know we can do that! And doesn’t the same hold true for our bodies? Put garbage in, get garbage out. How can you make a building that is supposed to last for 100 years if you don’t use the best building materials.
My advice is always fall in love with yourself, fall in love with your spouse and fall in love with life…no matter what age you are. What is better than to experience decades of memories with the same man or woman and doing it a body that allows you to go places and do things that you always dreamt of…at any age
It’s not a pipe dream, it’s being intentional. Even if you still think getting old sucks, I’ll remind you that the one for sure positive thing about aging is that you have the gift of experience, you know what works and what doesn’t. So if you want to live a full life of 100 years and you want to do it with somebody you love, then use the life lessons you know will get you there.
So stay sexy my friends!