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Have you ever asked yourself why we dread getting older so much

Recently, I asked a room full of 400 people who wanted to live to 100. You’d be surprised how many hands didn’t go up.

Apparently nobody wants to get old.

But we’re all getting old right now. This very second you’re 15 seconds older than you were when you read the first sentence. And there’s nothing you can do to stop that.

At 45, I often asked myself what causes a mid-life crisis? And the answer I always end up with is that it’s simply a lack of self esteem, self-love or a lack of excitement about what you’re currently doing or have planned for the future. That’s right. Meh.

Ladies, have you or women you know abandoned your sense of self or sex appeal? More importantly, how many of us men have? Any Al Bundy(s) out there? Physically mailing it in each day, not paying attention to your body as much as you did in your twenties? Or wearing clothes you told yourself you’d never wear? Do we get old or do we tell ourselves we’re getting old Maybe you’ve stopped setting goals and said ‘I’ve learned everything I need to learn so I’m good enough’.

Jack Nicholson seems to be an expert of living life. The actor once said “the minute you’re not learning, I believe you’re dead.” Years later he followed it up with “my motto is more good times.”

Now we all know that all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy, but one thing Jack has missed out on is a lasting marriage, fancying himself as a ‘Playboy’.  To each his own, however a major survey of 127,545 American adults found that married men are healthier than men who were never married or whose marriages ended in divorce or widowhood. Men who have marital partners also live longer than men without spouses.

Marriage was intended to last a lifetime. Not all do, but yours can. A body was made to last 100 years. Not all do, but yours can.

The common denominator in both being lasting and fruitful?

INTENTION.

Your health and marriage weren’t made with a cruise control button. If you stop pressing the gas and they come to a halt. If you want a healthy marriage and a healthy body that last a lifetime, you MUST make the right decisions and keep feeding the engine that makes them go with the best stuff!

Fawn Weaver, the author of “The Happy Wives Club” writes ““The difference between an ordinary marriage and an extraordinary marriage is in giving just a little ‘extra’ every day, as often as possible, for as long as we both shall live.”

Giving a little extra my friends. I know we can do that! And doesn’t the same hold true for our bodies? Put garbage in, get garbage out. How can you make a building that is supposed to last for 100 years if you don’t use the best building materials.

My advice is always fall in love with yourself, fall in love with your spouse and fall in love with life…no matter what age you are. What is better than to experience decades of memories with the same man or woman and doing it a body that allows you to go places and do things that you always dreamt of…at any age

It’s not a pipe dream, it’s being intentional. Even if you still think getting old sucks, I’ll remind you that the one for sure positive thing about aging is that you have the gift of experience, you know what works and what doesn’t. So if you want to live a full life of 100 years and you want to do it with somebody you love, then use the life lessons you know will get you there.

So stay sexy my friends!

Pursue Rich and Meaningful Life Experiences

Pursue Rich and Meaningful Life Experiences

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In his “For the Love of Money” podcast Chris Harder points out that “everyone has the right to an abundant lifestyle, and the responsibility to help others have the same.”
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Can you confidently say “I want to make more dollars” or has capitalism become a taboo word for you?.
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The record of history is absolutely crystal clear, that there is no alternative way, so far discovered, of improving the lives of ordinary people that can hold a candle to the productive activities that are unleashed by a free enterprise system.” -Milton Friedman, Nobel Prize winning economist. .
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Last year Americans spent a total of $70.15 billion on lottery tickets How’s that working out in fulfilling your dreams?
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Lets face it there are only two things you can do with a paper dollar (1) use it for a fire (2) use it to wipe your rear-end. .
HOWEVER, WHAT DOES THAT DOLLAR REPRESENT?……RICH & MEANINGFUL” life experiences. Like the one in this photo, my wife Angelike’s first trip to Lambeau Field on Thanksgiving Day 2015.   About 35 million people watch on Thanksgiving Day. How many have been to Lambeau to be “in it”?
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So maybe your “Rich & Meaningful” life experience is completely different. Maybe it’s:
Playing golf at Pebble Beach ($525) .
Taking the Fam to Disney World ($6,360 for a family of 4).
Summiting Mount Everest ($45,000).
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Most memories have a price tag💲Not all, I know….Watching your child take their first step is priceless. A great sunset is priceless. Sharing a laugh with a friend is priceless…..But if we’re being realistic and honest, for everything else, there’s Mastercard. .
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I ask you, where would you like to go? What would you like to experience? How will you get there?.

Close the Deal

Close the Deal

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Life is tough.
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It’s not good enough to try. You must finish, be it with your body and the 16-week challenge you signed up for or be it with you marriage or your job.
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CLOSE THE DEAL.
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The good news is that it’s never too late to become a CLOSER. It’s more of a MINDSET.
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I know because I was one of those people who always had an idea, and often started but then never closed. After you’ve done that to yourself enough times, it gets old and you go one of two ways. I chose forward.
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Finishing becomes a habit. So much so that I’ve given my daughters two simple rules to follow in life.
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Never be late.
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Never quit.
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Case in point, my six year old begged to be a cheerleader earlier this year. I cringed, but she wanted it, so I agreed. With just three weeks to go in the year she is telling me she doesn’t want to go anymore. As much as that thrills me, I said “absolutely not”. You will close it out and finish. I want her to have that mindset from an early age.
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If you’ve seen the movie Glengarry Glen Ross, you know in addition to the coffee comment, Alex Baldwin spouts his mantra; A.B.C. Always Be Closing. While he said it in the context of sales, I say it’s not a bad mantra to adopt for life. Start something…follow through and finish. Because we all know what third prize is right?

Captivate Yourself

Captivate Yourself

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We all work hard, but for what? To achieve a level of happiness of course. We each have those unique things that bring us joy. For me, it’s the quest for the ultimate mid-century party room to retreat and entertain guests.

It’s a reflection of my personality, and if I can captivate myself, I can captivate my friends. I don’t want the same thing everybody else has, I prefer to put my own unique stamp on the world and I encourage you to do the same. Fall in love with what really inspires you, not what everybody else has or does. Life is so much more FUN when you live it that way.

Three simple things (that you’re probably not doing) that will make you a better friend, lover, or business person

Three simple things (that you’re probably not doing) that will make you a better friend, lover, or business person

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Interpersonal communication, the process by which people exchange information, feelings, and meaning through verbal and non-verbal messages (AKA face-to-face communication) is vital to our growth and success in any type of relationship.

Is it as some say, “a lost art”? No. It’s basic instinct we need to reconnect with. Just take one trip to a mall or sit in the airport and observe and its not hard to see, as a society, we seem to be regressing in the way we communicate with one another in person. It’s the head down, buried in your device, repercussions of living in this day and age.

…And, it could be killing your love life, your friendships and your chances at success. Time to get back to basics with three simple things. (more…)

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